Royal Blog of Personality-Ville

The Number One Thing Introverts Want You To Know November 03 2015

It's simple: "We are not extroverts."



Introverts: What's your number one thing you want others to know about you?

Are You Wearing a "Personality Mask" with Your Spouse/Mate (VIDEO) November 01 2015

Three Ways to See if You are Wearing a Mask

Below: Here's a quick video to introduce you to the four Personality-Ville kingdoms.

 1. Know thyself. First, you need to determine who the heck you really are! Understanding your true self--how you energize, make decisions, your natural internal speed--is the foundation for true authentic living. How can you even start to address if you are wearing a mask if you don't know your true, natural self. Taking a personality test can give you some results. But there's a twist. It's important to answer the questions not "as you usually do," but imagine yourself naturally living your life without any interference.

One way to get to your natural personality, is to think about how you would really like to live your life. If you had the money to live any way you want to, with no influence from family, friends, bosses, children or anyone else, how would you live? A definitive way is to pick the answer that gives you the most energy, not necessarily “how you normally” do something, but looking at how energizing it is. Also look at what the motivation is. Why are you doing it “that” way? 

2. Get to know each other’s true self in a fun, open way. One system that could be useful is a colorful symbolic "Treasure Map to Life" with four kingdoms that help you visualize abstract concepts. This map is of Personality-Ville and its kingdoms of the Royal Castle, Royal Circus, Royal Observatory, or Royal Cottage. Each one has its own musical tempo. Take the test as a couple and determine which kingdom is most like your natural style, the one that gives you the most energy. You find your natural part to Life’s Song. Sharing the results can bring a deep feeling of understanding between the two of you. Using this system by putting up the colorful map on a wall, can remind you to “take the mask off” and just live in your “natural kingdom.”

3. Understand that when you adjust your behavior to suit your mate, think of it as a song and you will sing "harmony" to their lead--sometimes. That's the key. Sometimes you sing lead and sometimes you sing harmony. According to, this is called "The Harmony Habit: Sing your part to Life's Song and adjust (harmonize) your actions when needed."

The book Personality-Ville: Treasure Map to Life has a practical section on why you might be wearing a mask and which personality kingdom might be a mask. 





How to Keep Your Dragons of Defects Away May 06 2015

What to do with those pesky "Dragons of Defects"

that come out when you're under stress!

According to "," one way to help visualize and understand this abstract concept of different personality styles is to use a system of visual symbols.

It's based on various levels of detailed information given in a visual/symbolic map. The most basic is an understanding of personality styles. This is done with looking at four different style "homes." Extroverts: Castle or Circus. Introverts: Observatory or Cottage. Or a combination of each.

Each kingdom has its heroes (Aces) and dragons, showing the struggle as we each deal with the positives and negatives of our personalities.

Below is an example of a wall poster to help remind us how to "Tame our Dragons." It states: "No Dragon Zone!--Strengths, when taken to the extreme, become Dragons of Defects."

One of the unique aspects of this program is the use of visual images to quickly sum up an abstract concept. In this case, they have created a set of colorful dragons that take on characteristics of four different personality styles.

The premise goes with one of their benefits: "Understanding a person's Dragons of Defects~knowing what to expect~helps reduce stress." When your "dragon" comes out, it's visible to everyone~a little "Dragon Drool" can be seen. This is also the name of a new card game.

A brief summary of these Dragons of Defects and how to handle them during family events, is outlined by Personality-Ville founder and "Queen," Kimberly West of Mason City, Iowa.

She states, "The four Dragons of Defects are grouped into two categories. From The Family of Extrovert or Introvert. The Extrovert Dragons are, 'Bossy Barker,' and 'Chattyeth.' These two are very easy to spot because they are loud and intrusive. Tips for getting along with them. Bossy Barker likes to be in control. So give them something to control! A game, an event, the meal preparation, etc. 

 "Chattyeth likes to talk, a lot! So give them a place to do that. Maybe plan on them being the 'emcee' or 'Santa' choosing the presents and giving them to each person~talking much of the time. 

"Now, the Family of Introvert's Dragons are 'Perfectooth,' and 'Snoozoth.' Perfectooth likes things and people to be 'perfect.' They really like to be in control and have the best, highest quality presents/events. One way to help them during this time is to let them be in charge of one very important aspect of an event.

"Snoozoth is another Introvert Dragon. It doesn't take much to understand what this Dragon needs. The best thing you can do for this quiet introvert-type? Nothing. As in, don't give them a thing to do! And it would be really nice if you had a place for them to rest or even lie down if need be. Set up a guest room, with a lock on the door, for anyone who needs to stop, pause and rest. They will love it!"

Below: New Card Game



In order to teach these concepts, Personality-Ville has come up with some unique ways to do that. They have recently finalized a set of playing cards and wall posters/maps that has all of the dragons, and the "heroes" of each Personality-Ville kingdom to help tell the story of our differences. The site states this is for use by business, education and personal venues.



 All of this new, colorful artwork is being woven into West's new version of the book, "Why Can't Everyone Be Like Me?" This book is part of a new personality style system based on what West calls, "A symbolic language of colorful images and fun vocabulary that unites different types of personality tests under one "roof." "Personality-Ville®, Language: One For All," as she calls it.

Can't wait for the revised version? Original versions of her book, "Why Can't Everyone Be Like Me?" can only be found in most North Iowa libraries, as it is sold out and out of print.

For more information go to

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 Background and bio on Kimberly West, founder of Personality-Ville and designer of the game, Dragon Drool. (former teacher/speaker/counselor & Globe Gazette correspondent & columnist)

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What can you NOT live without? March 07 2015

Each of us has a natural preference of doing things and gaining energy a certain way. In today's challenging times, what can you NOT live without?

In Personality-Ville®, each kingdom has its own type of Royal Residence. This is like the four major temperaments of old. The introverts live in a calm Cottage and a cool Observatory; the extroverts live in a busy Castle, or fun Circus.

Free Shipping & No-Hassle Returns! November 11 2014

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